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Post by ZandraJoi on Jun 28, 2020 20:19:58 GMT -5
www.naturalawakenings.com/2020/05/29/315970/david-hamilton-on-kindness-in-the-pandemic-age “David Hamilton has authored 10 books, including The Little Book of Kindness, How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body and The Five Side Effects of Kindness. He holds a doctorate in organic chemistry and spent four years in the pharmaceutical industry developing drugs for treating cardiovascular disease and cancer. During clinical research trials, he noticed that a significant number of people experienced health improvements while on fake, or placebo, drugs. This inspired a career change more than 20 years ago, when he became a writer and public speaker teaching people how to understand and harness the mind-body connection to improve health. Have you noticed an increase in kindness during the current pandemic emergency? I think so. In the past, you said things like, “Hello, how are you?” as a greeting. But now, when people say it, they really mean it. There’s a sense of genuine compassion that I think is coming out in everyone on a scale that I’ve never seen before. We’re feeling empathy for people that are suffering, but also feeling empathy for each other, because we realize that everyone is in a similar place. How do you explain this upsurge in kindness during social distancing and isolation? We are genetically wired for kindness. The genes that produce the kindness hormone are some of the oldest in the human genome, like 500 million years old. So, our natural state is to care, to be kind and compassionate. But in life, we get caught up in everyday stresses and worries—financially, work-wise and in relationships—that often obscure that natural tendency to care. When a lot of that stuff is taken away, people’s natural sense of kindness and compassion come to the surface. Do you see an opportunity for a shift in collective consciousness? Absolutely. We’ve been called to unify, to recognize that we are part of the same human family. There’s a global outpouring of compassion. We’re transforming, becoming more aware of our own kindness and the needs of other people. On another level, I saw a meme that said, “It feels like the universe has sent us home to our rooms to think about what we’ve done.” There’s research that correlates an increase in viruses and parasites over the last couple of years to a loss in biodiversity due to human action, like knocking down rain forests and human-induced climate change. Species extinctions are 1,000 to 10,000 times greater today than they’ve ever been in recorded history, except for 65 million years ago when an asteroid crashed into the Earth and wiped out the dinosaurs. Parasites, viruses and bacteria have nowhere else to go, so they’re jumping species, from bats to humans, for example. We’re being called spiritually not only to be more compassionate and kind to each other, but also to recognize the damage we’re doing to the planet and to be more respectful of nature, the environment and animals. What are the positive physical effects of kindness? Physiologically speaking, kindness is the opposite of stress. Where feeling stressed can increase blood pressure, tense the nervous system and suppress the immune system, feelings induced by kindness reduce blood pressure, calm the nervous system and elevate the immune system. Are certain acts of kindness better than others? It doesn’t matter what you do. What matters most is that you do it because you mean it; you genuinely have a sense of empathy and want to help someone. All of the physiological benefits of kindness come because the feelings induced by kindness generate what I call kindness hormones, the most important one being oxytocin, which is a female reproductive hormone that also plays a big role in cardiovascular health. Can a small act of kindness really make a difference in the world? Absolutely. It’s been charted scientifically that if you do something kind for somebody, that person will be kind or kinder to five other people over the next day or two because of how you made them feel. Those five people will be kind or kinder to five further people, which turns into 25 people, and each of those 25 will be kind to five people, which takes it to 125 people’s lives that can be changed and affected in small and large ways three social steps away from you simply because of one tiny little thing you did.” My notes: We don't have to stop kindness after this is done with.
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Post by ZandraJoi on Jul 31, 2020 10:58:48 GMT -5
I do not believe there is a way in which this deeply entrenched evil can be quickly healed. But until this goal is reached there is no greater satisfaction for a just and well-meaning person than the knowledge that he has devoted his best energies to the service of the good cause.- Albert Einstein (Essays in Humanism) Friendship is a living thing that lasts only as long as it is nourished with kindness, sympathy, & understanding.- Mary Lou Retton Man's greatest blunder has been in trying to make peace with the skies instead of making peace with his neighbors.- Elbert Hubbard On some level, people know if you care or you don't. So it's best to spend your days with people and things that you genuinely care about.- Unknown
My notes: That last quote reminds me of the one I made up a long time ago- "Why waste time on people who don’t matter when you could be spending that time with people who do!"
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Post by ZandraJoi on Aug 22, 2020 20:37:13 GMT -5
Live simply so others may simply live.- Gandhi The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.- Ralph Waldo Emerson No one lives in vain who is important to the life of someone else.- Unknown Remember when charity was a virtue & not a deduction?- Unknown Every human being either adds to or subtracts from the happiness of those with whom he or she comes in contact.- Unknown
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Post by ZandraJoi on Aug 22, 2020 20:45:05 GMT -5
“Russian video that made the whole world cry”
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Post by Bob on Aug 23, 2020 18:58:21 GMT -5
“Russian video that made the whole world cry” That was good. People just being a little more considerate towards others.
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Post by ZandraJoi on Sept 1, 2020 20:40:54 GMT -5
www.viralnova.com/off-duty-heroism “When An Off-Duty Cop Heard Something Awful At A Restaurant, He Sent A Man Running So, possibly one of the coolest things I've ever seen. I mean you know how you hear the "women want him, men want to be him" stuff in old movies? Well I'm a man and by god I wanted to be this guy. Anyway! I'm having dinner with my girlfriend at the time, and behind us are a couple on a date. It is not going well. Guy was being rather creepy and making some pretty inappropriate comments, the girl doesn't look at all comfortable. The girl finishes her appetizer really quickly, my guess is she wanted to get it over with. Guy proceeds to comment on it and says "well, least I know you can swallow right?" Loudly. Girl goes red and tells him that isn't appropriate, he literally waves his hand in a "shoo" type motion and says "oh calm down I was going to find out in a few hours anyway". I missed her exact reply as she moved to a hushed tone, but it was fairly obvious what was being said. He responded with "sweetheart I picked you up, I know where you live". She lost the color in her face and said nothing. No. No. I'm one of those "get involved" type of people and there is no way I'm sitting here watching this go down. I get up. I don't know what I'm going to do, but I'm 23, fighting fit and happy to put that motherf***er through a wall. I may have had a slight temper in my youth. But anyway. I was halfway out of my chair when a hand came down on my shoulder and I look up to this mid-50s but super fit guy who says "Easy.. I've got this one son." Absolute, total confidence in his voice. So seeing as my current plan amounted to "stab him in the neck" and I'm already thinking maybe that's not the best idea, I sit down. He walks over, grabs a nearby chair, flips it around and sits down with the couple. Then he pulls out his police ID and puts it on the table. Now the guy doesn't have any color in his face. Cop: "So, I'm quietly celebrating my daughter's birthday with my family when I distinctly hear you threaten this young lady, would you care to explain yourself?" Guy: "I, ah, well, um, you see.." Cop: "That's what I thought. Now see, we take a very dim view of that kind of thing, so right now I'm deciding if I want to have some of my buddies come pick you up." Guy: "oh no well that…" Cop: "But that would disrupt everyone's dinner, so how about you hand me your ID, because I wouldn't want you running off on me, then you go see one of the staff here and settle your bill.. the full bill now, this young lady shouldn't go hungry on account of your poor behavior. Or we can go with the first option, I'll leave it up to you." Guy: "No no! That's perfectly fine!" *hands over ID, gets up and walks very quickly in the direction of the counter* Cop: *while writing down the guys details* "Sorry about that miss, I hope I'm not intruding it just seemed like you could use some help. Oh and don't worry, if you want to pursue this further I'll have some of the boys pick him up on his way home, we can definitely take this further." Girl: "No, thank you so much, I wanted to run out 30 minutes ago but he drove me here". Cop: *shifts from hardarse cop to comforting father figure in about half a second* "Well I'm here with my daughter, she's about your age, perhaps you'd like to finish your meal with us? We can run you home afterwards if you'd like, unless you'd prefer to call someone else?" Girl: "Oh.. that would be really nice.. thank you so much!" *guy returns, so does the hardarse cop* Guy: "Uh so, I've paid the bill, if I could have my ID back..". Cop: "There you go.. now I have your details right here so I highly recommend you don't go near or contact this young lady ever again." Guy: "Yes yes of course, I'm so sorry!" The guy pretty much fled the restaurant, the girl went and sat with the cop and his family and by the time we left they were still sitting around talking and laughing about random crap. It was hands down the best way I have ever seen anybody handle any situation, ever. That cop is my hero." My notes: I don't know how true this story is. Regardless, it's a good one!
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Post by Bob on Sept 4, 2020 19:59:28 GMT -5
www.viralnova.com/off-duty-heroism “When An Off-Duty Cop Heard Something Awful At A Restaurant, He Sent A Man Running So, possibly one of the coolest things I've ever seen. I mean you know how you hear the "women want him, men want to be him" stuff in old movies? Well I'm a man and by god I wanted to be this guy. Anyway! I'm having dinner with my girlfriend at the time, and behind us are a couple on a date. It is not going well. Guy was being rather creepy and making some pretty inappropriate comments, the girl doesn't look at all comfortable. The girl finishes her appetizer really quickly, my guess is she wanted to get it over with. Guy proceeds to comment on it and says "well, least I know you can swallow right?" Loudly. Girl goes red and tells him that isn't appropriate, he literally waves his hand in a "shoo" type motion and says "oh calm down I was going to find out in a few hours anyway". I missed her exact reply as she moved to a hushed tone, but it was fairly obvious what was being said. He responded with "sweetheart I picked you up, I know where you live". She lost the color in her face and said nothing. No. No. I'm one of those "get involved" type of people and there is no way I'm sitting here watching this go down. I get up. I don't know what I'm going to do, but I'm 23, fighting fit and happy to put that motherf***er through a wall. I may have had a slight temper in my youth. But anyway. I was halfway out of my chair when a hand came down on my shoulder and I look up to this mid-50s but super fit guy who says "Easy.. I've got this one son." Absolute, total confidence in his voice. So seeing as my current plan amounted to "stab him in the neck" and I'm already thinking maybe that's not the best idea, I sit down. He walks over, grabs a nearby chair, flips it around and sits down with the couple. Then he pulls out his police ID and puts it on the table. Now the guy doesn't have any color in his face. Cop: "So, I'm quietly celebrating my daughter's birthday with my family when I distinctly hear you threaten this young lady, would you care to explain yourself?" Guy: "I, ah, well, um, you see.." Cop: "That's what I thought. Now see, we take a very dim view of that kind of thing, so right now I'm deciding if I want to have some of my buddies come pick you up." Guy: "oh no well that…" Cop: "But that would disrupt everyone's dinner, so how about you hand me your ID, because I wouldn't want you running off on me, then you go see one of the staff here and settle your bill.. the full bill now, this young lady shouldn't go hungry on account of your poor behavior. Or we can go with the first option, I'll leave it up to you." Guy: "No no! That's perfectly fine!" *hands over ID, gets up and walks very quickly in the direction of the counter* Cop: *while writing down the guys details* "Sorry about that miss, I hope I'm not intruding it just seemed like you could use some help. Oh and don't worry, if you want to pursue this further I'll have some of the boys pick him up on his way home, we can definitely take this further." Girl: "No, thank you so much, I wanted to run out 30 minutes ago but he drove me here". Cop: *shifts from hardarse cop to comforting father figure in about half a second* "Well I'm here with my daughter, she's about your age, perhaps you'd like to finish your meal with us? We can run you home afterwards if you'd like, unless you'd prefer to call someone else?" Girl: "Oh.. that would be really nice.. thank you so much!" *guy returns, so does the hardarse cop* Guy: "Uh so, I've paid the bill, if I could have my ID back..". Cop: "There you go.. now I have your details right here so I highly recommend you don't go near or contact this young lady ever again." Guy: "Yes yes of course, I'm so sorry!" The guy pretty much fled the restaurant, the girl went and sat with the cop and his family and by the time we left they were still sitting around talking and laughing about random crap. It was hands down the best way I have ever seen anybody handle any situation, ever. That cop is my hero." My notes: I don't know how true this story is. Regardless, it's a good one! Very cool story.
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Post by ZandraJoi on Sept 30, 2020 20:09:10 GMT -5
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.- Leo Buscaglia The best way across a swift-flowing river of loneliness is over a sturdily constructed bridge of friendship.- Unknown A wise physician said, “The best medicine for humans is love.” Someone asked, “If it doesn’t work?” He smiled and answered, “Increase the Dose.”- Unknown Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light.- Albert Schweitzer I don't make you feel special; I just remind you that you are special!- David F. Sims Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing anyone who comes between them.- Sydney Smith
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Post by ZandraJoi on Oct 11, 2020 20:34:28 GMT -5
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Post by ZandraJoi on Nov 4, 2020 8:56:33 GMT -5
People who married highschool sweethearts include Bono & his wife: In a sweet anecdote about his wife, Bono said, "And she just repeated what she's been telling me since we were teenagers, which is, 'Don't look down at me but don't look up at me either. Look across to me. I'm here.'"
You don't need a friend to side with you when you are right. You need a friend to side with you when you are wrong.- Unknown Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.- Francesco Guicciardini A simple word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.- Unknown If you ever have to wonder if someone is a truly good friend or not, know that having to wonder is your answer. When you have a truly good friend, there will be no doubt.- Unknown
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Post by Bob on Nov 8, 2020 20:35:20 GMT -5
Re: dog meme- That is so cute.
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Post by Bob on Nov 8, 2020 20:37:34 GMT -5
People who married highschool sweethearts include Bono & his wife: In a sweet anecdote about his wife, Bono said, "And she just repeated what she's been telling me since we were teenagers, which is, 'Don't look down at me but don't look up at me either. Look across to me. I'm here.'" You don't need a friend to side with you when you are right. You need a friend to side with you when you are wrong.- UnknownSince there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.- Francesco GuicciardiniA simple word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.- UnknownIf you ever have to wonder if someone is a truly good friend or not, know that having to wonder is your answer. When you have a truly good friend, there will be no doubt.- UnknownPretty good stuff.
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Post by ZandraJoi on May 21, 2021 9:04:22 GMT -5
To keep up & improve a friendship, thou must be willing to receive a kindness, as well as to do one.- Thomas Fuller Show me a happily married couple & I’ll show you two people unworried about who’s the better half.- Unknown Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.- Franklin D. Roosevelt
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Post by krishatnet on Jun 27, 2021 6:53:47 GMT -5
Yes we become what we think, the root cause of some diseases is our thinking. Have good thoughts and be kind for good health and peacefulness.
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Post by ZandraJoi on Oct 6, 2021 20:23:30 GMT -5
If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.- Maya Angelou Nobody’s conscience ever kept him awake at night for having exaggerated the good qualities of his friends.- Unknown The only safe thing to do behind a person’s back is to pat it.- Unknown
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Post by ZandraJoi on Dec 5, 2022 21:18:22 GMT -5
We shall never have friends, if we expect to find them without fault.- Thomas Fuller If you cannot lift the load off another’s back, do not walk away. Try to lighten it.- Frank Tyger
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Post by golden on Apr 15, 2023 10:10:55 GMT -5
I am unable to find kindness people offline, but online their were many. I hate even my friends who never meet me and talk with me if we overcome to each other on roads. I met new people and tried to make friends, but when it comes for money they start to ignore helping me so this is a waste of time.
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Post by ZandraJoi on Apr 18, 2023 9:57:29 GMT -5
I am unable to find kindness people offline, but online their were many. I hate even my friends who never meet me and talk with me if we overcome to each other on roads. I met new people and tried to make friends, but when it comes for money they start to ignore helping me so this is a waste of time. That is one thing that is great about the internet. We DO find more connections than we would locally.
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Post by Emerald on May 8, 2023 3:25:26 GMT -5
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